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Re: Attracting/Getting a guy to notice
1. Class it up - I know every generation has their trends but this ‘new’ look girls are walking around with looks…slobby. Sweatpants and hoodies are not an outfit suitable for going to the mall or class, they are for the gym or sleeping…Period. Yes, guys will look at your (tight) pants with “love, cute, diva, pink, and sweet”, but few will think it is “cute” or view you as a “diva”. Seriously. Also (please), stop with the practice of wearing a size-too-small shirt you have to constantly pull and tug at all day. The giant starburst or butterfly over your rear or the belly button ring you have ranks around 12th on most guys ‘must have’ list.
Dress smartly. A few more dresses. A few more skirts. Learn how an iron works. Go back and watch movies from the 1950’s on Turner Classics Network and dress a notch less.
2. Be well read - Twilight and Harry Potter are not the kind of literature guys will want to discuss over dinner. Check out books by C.S. Lewis, Stephen Covey, Frank Waldo Emerson, John Gray, Seth Godin, Ayn Rand, or Chuck Palanchick. Yes, guys that read books by these authors will probably be the ones that in five years won’t be swilling beer on the couch watching football with their buddies all day sunday while you ‘tend to the kids’ or are cleaning all day.
3. Know where you are going - When guys ask, “what you want to do with your life”, have a plan, in detail. I don’t care if you change down the road, guys are just as turned off by women without goals or direction as you are by men without the same.
4. Manner, manners, manners - Quit biting your fingernails, it looks nasty while you are doing it and when you are not. Look people in the eye when you speak to them. Learn how to properly shake hands. Learn how to sit like someone important is sitting with you…always. Say ‘thank you’ EACH AND EVERY TIME someone does something nice for you (and they will probably do more nice things for you).
5. Speak with purpose - Its o.k. to be reflective in conversation and let long pauses fill the air when what you are saying has some thought behind it. Great guys love that. Also, eliminate saying ‘like’ in front of words. People aren’t ‘like’ going somewhere, and they aren’t ‘like’ mad. They are simply ‘going’ somewhere or ‘mad’.
6. Vow to only post classy or cute pictures - Please stop with the drunk/party pictures. When guys see pictures of girls with that drunk baby oil sheen on their faces, they don’t see ‘future wife’, they see easy. I would also eliminate any single picture you have with you and your best guy friends. Both sexes are jealous, better not to stoke the fire.
7. Learn phone etiquette - No more taking call waiting calls. Let them go to voice mail, its rude. Vow to stop texting/instant messaging/emailing like you are trying to write Atlas Shrugged by the end of the week, when waiting on someone. It doesn’t make you look important or like you have a bunch of friends, it screams ‘self-centered’.
8. Quit being every guys friend - Looks its o.k. to have guy friends but really, you don’t need to know every detail of their relationship with their girlfriend and you need to start telling them so. You aren’t a pillow or a psychologist to them. Hang out, have lunch fine, but quit being every guys best friend…and you won’t be anymore. If you like him and you have been waiting on him to make a move for six months and he hasn’t, go ahead and ‘woman up’ and have the talk…and be o.k. with whatever happens. I am not saying you only have a short window to find a decent guy but let me tell you…the never married 28-38 year old guy is usually that way for a reason.
9. If you are of age to drink… -Guys aren’t impressed by your ability to take a few shots and still walk straight or drink a beer faster than they can. Frankly, it scares the good ones and makes the shall we say, less scrupulous ones, think if he can get a few more drinks in you…
10. Hit the gym - (Boo Dad…Boo!!!) Good guys (read that again) don’t expect a size 2 (NO, they don’t) but in a battle between two women that use my previous nine suggestions, the skinnier one will probably win. Guys have the same battle but its with the size of our wallets, so don’t think it is one sided. Good guys (remember what we are going striving for) know down the road that things like a good conversationalist, good mothering traits, and an interesting mate make for a great life-long partner, but guys are visually wired (sorry). You’ll look better, feel better, and appear more vibrant to guys when you work out. Good guys don’t expect a barbie doll…just your personal best.
Women! Am I Right?
